Candlelight Moments: Basics of Wax Play

Author: Norische

Article link: https://thebdsmgarden*com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=587&chapter=1

For many, wax play is one of the first experiences within the BDSM realm, this is also the reason that so many people end up getting accidentally hurt. All too often someone is watching a pornographic movie and sees someone drip wax on his or her partner and suddenly they are rummaging through their kitchen cabinets looking for a candle that they can experiment with. “It looked so easy in the movie…” or “The women in the movie seemed to really like it so…” are phrases the emergency room staff have undoubtedly heard time and time again. Although most individuals probably make up some story about accidentally dropping a candle on their naked genitals or knocking a candle over and splashing wax all over their bare back as they turned; having worked in an ER I myself heard a few excuses such as these, although you honestly are suspicious about the method of the injury the means is always quite clear. Wax play done improperly can lead to first and second-degree burns, pain and permanent scarring.

Although wax play is simplistic in nature there are a few very basic safety tips and details that you need to know prior to exploring the wondrous avenue.

First, like with any BDSM play; know your weapon. There are several things you must know about the wax you are using before you can use it.

🔹What type of wax are you using? Each type of wax has a different melting point. The melting point is the temperature that the wax must be to go from solid to liquid and remain so.

Type of Wax Melting point Fahrenheit

Paraffin 120 – 145 degrees

Low temp wax 120 – 125 degrees

Standard jar candles 125 – 135 degrees

Standard pillar candles 135 – 140 degrees

Bee’s wax candles 140 – 155 degrees

Oil based candles 165 – 190 degrees

Gel jar candles 165 – 180 degrees

🔹Is it scented or unscented?

The addition of scents or scented oils may entice the senses but they also raise the melting point of wax between 5 and 10 degrees. Take this into consideration before you put any candle into use. Massaging the body with scented oils prior to wax play also affects the skin’s reaction to the wax itself. Although it does not affect the heat of the wax it does affect the time it takes for the wax to cool as well as whether the skin will radiate the heat or hold the heat in. Using an oil on the skin prior to wax play will help prevent the wax from sticking to the skin, and body hair (if any is present) it also makes clean up much easier. When you use oil however make sure you allow for a longer cooling time and that you monitor the skin closely. If the skin is warm to the touch then but there is no visible discoloration, it is safe to continue. If the skin is pink and warm to the touch, I suggest you use caution and slow down a little. If the skin is bright pink or red and hot to the touch then stop immediately and apply a cool compress to the skin, do not put ice directly to the burn, as it may cause additional tissue damage.

🔹Is the candle you are using colored, uncolored or is it clear/white in the center and colored on the outside?

Whenever you use colored wax please make sure to allow for approximately 5 and 10 degrees difference. On a candle that has a white or clear center and colored outside, you do not need to compensate, normally these candles are designed to burn down the center and do not actually burn the colored areas at all.

By using the above calculations a standard white unscented pillar candle has a melting point between 135 – 140 degrees, the same candle, cinnamon scented in red will change the melting point of that candle to between 145 – 160 degrees. This takes the experience from being pleasurable to being painful all the way to being harmful.

You can use any candle for wax play as long as you compensate and use the proper precautions. If you are using a hotter wax, simply increase the distance from the candle to the skin when dripping it onto the body. I always test the wax on myself prior to dripping it onto my slave/sub, this way I will be aware of the level of pain and or pleasure that should be expected. Normally I start the candle out at around 36 inches above the skin, and slowly lower it every few drops until I get the desired effect.

Also keep in mind that different parts of the body can stand different levels of heat. Never do wax play above the shoulders, there is too great a risk of burning the eyes, or getting wax in the mouth or nose, this may lead to choking or asphyxiation. Some believe that if you put fabric or a hood over the face that you can proceed with the wax play, I personally find the risk still too great. The breast and genitals can be included in wax play as long as you remember that this skin is highly sensitive and the healing time for a burn in these areas is painful and may last for an inconveniently long time.

One scene I would like to describe for you has been one of my favorites. I have always been a sadistic bitch and I enjoy every moment of it. It was a cold winter’s day, snow was maybe 8 inches deep and outside it was probably only in the upper teens, so I decided to do a little wax play with my male submissive. I had him blindfolded and secured on a low table with a plastic sheet underneath him. I let him lay there relaxing as I warmed the paraffin in the vat. I use a simple paraffin spa that I picked up at Wal-Mart. It can hold up to 10 pounds of paraffin, although when it is that full it does take a while to melt down. Once the wax had melted I spent a little time rubbing my submissive down with unscented oil, and massaging him a little. Then I used a ladle to pour wax directly onto his lower abdomen, at first he was a little leery I suppose due to the heat but he began to relax quickly. I let the wax run down his stomach onto his crotch and begin to pool between his legs. As he became more comfortable with the heat, I began to pour the wax directly onto his genitals, from his facial expressions I could tell there was some discomfort there but nothing he couldn’t handle. The next thing I did is where the sedition came in, as soon as I poured a ladle of wax on him I dumped a handful of snow on his crotch right behind it. Back and forth between hot and cold, over and over again he had goose bumps and was sweating all in the same moment. I never allowed the snow to make direct contact with the skin for more than a few seconds but the effect was dramatic. I ended by scrapping the wax from his body by using a very dull knife (basically the equivalent of a butter knife). The entire experience was extremely exhilarating and enjoyable for both of us.

When talking to Betsy, my submissive, she explained her first experience with wax play in a very different manner.

“My first experience with wax play was not a good one. My 1st Dominant was unfortunately for me a wanna be Dom. He had decided that wax play sounded good, but he had no experience with wax at all. He went down to Wal-Mart and bought a box of the Gulf Wax brand paraffin, and an acrylic paintbrush, this should have immediately told me he was inexperienced. He brought over a cheap aluminum pot and melted the wax and stirred it with the acrylic paintbrush, leaving the acrylic paintbrush sitting in the melted wax. My first taste of wax play was the brush being taken directly from the pan and whipped on my breast; he allowed the brush to lay against my skin for about a minute. I ended up with a first degree burn over one third of my left breast, the area was red for over a week and remained tender to the touch for about the next three weeks! After the initial damage was done, he proceeded to paint my breast with the brush, adding layer upon layer of wax; not realizing that by layering the wax it was actually holding in the heat and not allowing the skin to cool down between layers. This Dom made three big mistakes. First acrylic is plastic and melts, so when he left the paintbrush in the pan it was actually melting it and mixing it with the wax. Second, he did not test the temperature on himself first; he laid the brush on my breast without draining the excess wax from the brush or even checking to see how hot it was. Third, he layered the wax without thinking about how hot it would get. What could have and should have been a wonderful sensual scene turned into a disaster. Needless to say – I lost trust in this Dominant rather quickly.”

After you are familiar with the effects of wax, now we must move on to the application. As with betsy’s experience you may use a brush, please be intelligent and use a natural fiber brush, you can get them in any hardware or lumber store. Another means of application is pouring the wax on by using a ladle or cup, even directly from the jar itself, in these cases please remember to test out the temp and allow for the proper height in order to avoid unnecessary burns. Another method is by using gauze or material, simply dip the gauze or fabric in the wax and gently lay it directly on the skin, when the wax cools you can add another layer of gauze or fabric or you can simply pour more wax directly onto the material. An inexpensive alternative to medical gauze is shop towels, they are purchased by the role like paper towels but they are much thicker and inexpensive. Simply cut the shop towels to the appropriate width and dip them in the vat, make sure to squeeze out the excess wax before applying the towel to the skin. Another method of application is the use of a turkey baster, again remember to test on your own skin before you squirt this on someone else.


▪️If you are wanting more color and don’t want to risk using a colored candle, try melting a crayon in the wax, it will add color but will not raise the melting point of the wax.

▪️Whenever you play with hot items, be sure to have a container of cold water and towels nearby in incase of an accident.

▪️Whenever you are using a lit candle make sure that you do not have on acrylic or polyester clothing, if wax gets on these fabrics it can cause the fabric to melt to your skin. Also make sure that you do not have long sleeves that may catch fire or be dipped in the vat by accident.

▪️The first time you experiment with wax please make sure to take your time and test the wax on yourself prior to using it on another individual.

▪️If you don’t know, ask. Others that have experience with wax love telling interesting stories about their adventures and can entice some excellent ideas.

Like with all my articles these are my opinions only, please take what you wish and leave the rest. If you wish to contact me, my email address is

Clothespin Play

Source: lovensedotcom

The wooden ones you use to hang your laundry with … yes, those.

There are also plastic ones, metal, big, tiny (like for scrapbooking), decorative, one with teeth/ridges on the inside, ones with smooth clip ends, etc. The options are endless…

So are the ways you can use them during BDSM play.


Yes and no. It is simply a matter of attaching them to the skin, but HOW and the LOCATION is where the fun lies.

There’s really no limit to where you place the pins – there’s not much that’s off-limits (labia, breasts, ears, fingers, the skin around the rib cage, testicles, nose, armpits, anywhere) … as long as…

It’s within the person’s consented pain tolerance

Doesn’t impede breathing

Isn’t aggravating injuries or wounds

Aren’t put in locations that might cause mental discomfort or trauma


The best place is on the skin between the pointer finger and thumb (and not just on the bottom– anything you use on them you should be able to test on yourself).

Whether it’s too tight or loose depends entirely on the person being pinned.

If they’re too tight, I’ve heard of people clipping the pin open to weaken the coil and therefore make it looser. Some even drill holes into the handles to add spin clamps to adjust the pressure (but too much work if you ask me).

You can also buy specialist pins meant for BDSM but they’re a bit pricey.


Putting them on is as fun as taking them off, but remember one important thing…

Taking them off hurts MORE than putting them on. This comes from the blood rushing back to the area. Some love it, some hate it, some are meh. It depends on the bottom.

As for actual removal, I would recommend just gently removing them (unclamping) if you’re just starting out. After you’re more comfortable with the experience, you can flog them off, whip them off, flick them, or use a ZIPPER!


Pins are attached to a piece of string or rope so when you tug at it they all pop off one after the other. It can make for some very intense pain, pleasure, and fun.

NOTE: Once the pins are on – they MUST, at some point, come off. So if the bottom uses their safety word, you’re in a bit of a pickle. The best way is to just remove them by hand (no zipper pulling) and give them serious aftercare – including discussions on how to avoid a similar painful situation in the future – although, if you just slowly work your way up to these points, it would be rare to run into this situation.


Some feel intense pain (more than the pin going on). Others feel a rush of endorphins and wonderful, warm fuzzy feelings. Some cry. A few say that the areas become hypersensitive afterward – so blowing on the area or caressing it can produce additional physical reactions.


Don’t leave pins on for more than 15-20 minutes

Don’t get pins with teeth, if you use a zipper it could tear skin off

Sand off wooden clips from anything that might splinter

Do not put clips on the clit (too delicate)

Do leave them on for shorter times if you’re a beginner

Watch for blue discoloration of the skin

Watch for coldness or numbness

Be careful around piercings

*pic is of a zipper


Cupping – Cupping is an ancient Chinese, Egyptian, and Middle Eastern practice of using glass cups on the skin and creating a vacuum. The resulting effect is to draw blood closer to the surface and therefore “improve circulation” by breaking up stagnant blood and dissolving congested blood. Within BDSM we use the exact same steps as health-related cupping, but in areas that are more erogenous. You’ve heard of a pussy or penis pump? Well, it’s the same idea. First, blood is brought to the area and increases sexual stimulation. Second, the actual pressure and bruising can be sexual for some people as well. There are three main types of cupping. Dry cupping uses mechanical means, such as a pump, to create the vacuum inside the cup. Fire cupping involves heating the area inside the cups to create the vacuum. Wet cupping uses one of the techniques above to create the vacuum. The wetness comes from small lacerations made in the skin. When the vacuum is created, blood is pulled from these tears.

Has a friend or partner ever revealed to you that they enjoy this kink/fetish? Is this something you may be interested in or does this sound like something that might make it on your limit list? If interested, would you be more likely to Top or bottom this kink/fetish? Always remember, no kink-shaming because our lifestyle is full of diversity!


Coprophilia comes from two Greek words meaning “excrement fondness” and is the official name for the fetish involving sexual arousal and pleasure using poop. This fetish is often one of the fastest to land on a hard limit list although many people also often enjoy other kinks that come in close contact with feces. I believe it commonly gets on that hard limit list so quickly because of two things: lack of education and social stigma.

Let’s briefly touch on social stigma first before I do a some education on different types of Coprophilia play (some that you might be shocked that you actually do!). When people say they are into kink they often throw out a handful of hard limits and it’s usually something like “kids, animals, piss and scat” or some variation of those. They usually don’t say why those are their limits and often times don’t really have any other reason other than “those things are all gross!”

Everything outside of consent is automatically considered off limits within BDSM. Consent is the reason why kids, animals, and dead people are hard limits. They cannot give consent so therefore they are automatically hard limits. If we put anything else on our hard limit list we need to know why it is on it. Saying something is gross is classic 100% kink shaming. For anything that is able to be done within consent, gross isn’t a good reason because it often translates that the people who do those things are gross people.

Perhaps something is a limit because it doesn’t appear to be something you would enjoy. Or it is something you don’t feel is safe for you. Or it is something you are afraid of. Or it is something you tried and did not like. Or it is related to something traumatic that was done to you. Those are all valid reasons for a hard limit. Just be sure whatever the reason is (and there are many others), that it is not related to kink shaming.

So let’s look at different types of kink that involve aspects of coprophilia. Anal, rimming, and ass to mouth are three types of play that involve an area of the body that comes in direct contact with feces. Anal play can involve all kinds of other kinks too. Anything to do with anal play involves playing with the anus, the sphincter muscles, and/or the rectum. No matter what you do, there is no way to guarantee that those areas are totally clean. If you regularly play in that area you will encounter some fecal matter at one time or another. And if you regularly put your mouth near that area or objects that have been in that area, you will likely ingest some form of feces at one time or another. If you enjoy those kinks, it’s no big deal! Keep enjoying them, be as clean as you can and don’t worry about it!

Scat play can be done a variety of ways. Most commonly it is having your partner push excrement out of the body onto some part of your body. The hands, stomach, chest, or genitals are common areas. Often times to do scat safely, plastic wrap is used to cover the receiving person’s body. Just as in wax play, one can feel warmth through the plastic wrap so it is a similar connection to having the feces directly on the skin. Yet no pathogens are passed in the process and cleanup is easier. It is uncommon for scat play to involve ingesting feces. Some do it, yet there are numerous risks involved because feces is a way our body exits pathogens and other bacteria out of our system.

Scat play can be simulated altogether. There are numerous foods and other substances, like clay for example, that hold warmth and have similar texture to feces. Simulating it can be a very primal experience for both partners. While considered edgeplay due to its risks, scat play is often sensual, primal, and about the feelings of connection. It also can be part of humiliation and degradation play.

It’s still fine if it belongs on your hard limit list. Like every other consensual kink, it isn’t for everyone. All kinks have risks and someone thinks the things you are into don’t appear to be things they would enjoy. Thanks for allowing me the opportunity to share some education on this commonly misunderstood kink.

Basic Bodywriting

This is a task to help explore humiliation. Humiliation is a very subjective and personal experience – different for everyone – what might be humiliation to some is not to others. Also, some find the experience to be arousing while others do not. This task is set up to help a submissive discover their own experience with humiliation, and I hope you find it useful. The task will take place over three consecutive days, so when you accept or request the assignment, be sure you can complete it within seven days and you are able to perform for three consecutive days.

Items Needed:

Sharpie Pen, lipstick, or similar


Pen and paper

Sex Toys (optional for Day 3)


You must be honest, both about what you choose as your humiliating phrase/words, but also as you keep your record. Any masturbation must be done manually. No toys, vibrators, etc. allowed., except on Day 3. If you feel you are likely to forget your body writing during the course of the day, you may wear a ribbon around your wrist to help remind you. That is optional, of course.


The first thing you should do is think about what, at the present moment, is the most humiliating thing you could be called by someone else. This should be something that doesn’t hit a limit of yours, but that is something you find to be humiliating and hopefully oddly arousing. Obviously this will differ between individuals. Got it? OK, we’re going to be writing it down…

Day 1:

First thing in the morning, you will kneel naked in the Nadu position for 15 minutes, contemplating the task ahead and the phrase you have selected. You will then write the phrase or words you have chosen on your abdomen with the sharpie pen or lipstick. When you have finished, you will lie on your back with your legs spread wide apart and you will masturbate (manual only, no toys!) to full climax. As you do so, you will also continuously utter the phrase written on your body as you masturbate as if you are speaking to your dominant, saying, “I am your ________ ” etc. Have fun with it and see how many ways you can enjoy what you are for your dominant as you pleasure yourself for them. Pay attention to your feelings as you mark yourself and as you experience the pleasure of your orgasm after you have written your personal humiliation on your body. After you have climaxed, you will not wash yourself, but you will dress and go about your day. As you go through your day, you will keep with you a pen and paper and you will record whenever your thoughts turn to the task or the phrase written on your body. If you think about it all day, that only counts as one time, so be honest with your record. Whenever your mind returns from your daily life to the task or your humiliation, make note and keep track. At the end of the day, you will tally the number of times you have thought about it. Prior to going to sleep, you will again kneel in Nadu position for 15 minutes and you will contemplate your experience during the day. After 15 minutes, you will lie on your back with your legs spread wide and you will masturbate for only as long as your tally. You will also utter the phrase out loud in the same manner as before, again enjoying what you are for your dominant’s pleasure. You may orgasm, but only if you can accomplish that within the time you earned. When your time is up, you will wash your body clean of your writing, and then you will write your report. Your report should include your feelings about the task and the feelings you experienced as you went through the act of writing on yourself, the masturbation and the thoughts you had during the day.

Day 2:

You will perform the task as on Day 1, except today you will NOT masturbate after you have written your phrase on your body. You will again keep track of the number of times your thoughts turned to the task or the writing on your body. Just prior to retiring for the night, you will kneel in Nadu position for 15 minutes, then you will lie on your back with legs spread wide and you will masturbate for only as long as the day’s tally. You will again utter the phrase out loud as on Day 1 while you masturbate. The same rules apply – you may climax if that is accomplished within the time period designated by the tally. Again, wash your body clean and then write your report. How was today different from Day 1?

Day 3:

This time you will kneel in Nadu position for 15 minutes and you will neither write the phrase nor will you masturbate. You will, however, continue to maintain your record of the number of times your thoughts turn to the task and/or the phrase or words you have chosen. At the end of the day you will kneel in Nadu position for 15 minutes, then you will write the phrase on your body. Then you will masturbate as before, crying out the phrase as before. You are permitted to climax as many times as the tally for Day 3. Can you meet the challenge? It is your reward as well as a way to engage in the pleasure of your own Humiliation Daze! I hope you had fun and I look forward to your reports.

Special Info:

Nadu: The submissive kneels before his/her Master/Mistress, head up, chin straight, eyes lowered, knees spread wide open, shoulders back keeping back straight (or arched slightly), breasts thrust outward. Hands lie on her thighs, palms facing upward.


Reports for this task are to be made daily (minimum 300 words), as the last act of the day. Reports should detail your feelings throughout the day during all parts of the task. Pay close attention to, and attempt to describe in your report the sensation of humiliation and arousal. Photos are encouraged and desired if you would like to share them.

Safety Considerations:

When kneeling, you can do so on a soft surface, but if you have knee problems you might avoid the task or modify your pose. Also, in keeping your tally throughout the day, obviously you won’t want to do it while driving, so be safe!

Source: dominalex.wordpress*com/tag/bdsm-assignments/

Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) 101

Source: Mistress Kay on kinklydotcom

The CFNM kink is so simple that many people into it can exactly pinpoint the time where they fell in love with it.

Very popular in female domination circles, Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM, for short) is exactly how it sounds: a kink for a clothed woman while a nearby male is entirely naked. While the kink is often used as part of a power exchange dynamic (where one person is in charge while the other accepts orders), CFNM can also be used outside of power exchange dynamics as well.

People of any gender identities or gender presentations can participate in CFNM.

All that CFNM requires is two people in two various states of dress. However, for the sake of simplicity and the name of the kink, the words “woman” and “man” have been used within this article. A less popular version, CMNF (Clothed Male, Naked Female), is also considered a kinky fetish. However, possibly because of societal expectations or the popularity of the “naked and willing female submissive” trope, “Clothed Male, Naked Female” isn’t often mentioned by specific name.

Why Do People Enjoy It?

Even the most unkinky person can agree: there’s something inherently vulnerable about being naked in front of another human. In CFNM, kinksters just exploit this inherent vulnerability for their own fun. Being naked and vulnerable, while another person is fully clothed and in charge, only reinforces the power exchange dynamic of someone else being in charge.

The plain simplicity of this kink feeds into people’s love for it as well. The kink is so simple that many people into it can exactly pinpoint the time where they fell in love with it. Maybe it was their first girlfriend, who was too nervous to ever undress, so all of their sex was with him being the sole naked person. Maybe it was her first husband, who slept naked, but was so turned on for sex that he never bothered to take the time for her to get naked before the two of them had sex. Most people into CFNM can pinpoint the exact reason why they think they’re into it.

In addition to being vulnerable, a lot of male submissives report that the kink feels extremely sexual. In most cases where a woman is asking them to strip naked, sexual activities or kinky acts are in the near future. Just the stripping down in itself can become a Pavlovian response to future sexual activity – and can become a kink in itself.

Is This Possibly the Easiest Kink Out There?

Well, I’m sure there are other “simple” kinks out there, but Clothed Female, Naked Male definitely ranks as one of the easiest kinks to perform – and that’s part of the appeal! This doesn’t require any specific toys or any specific furniture. You can do it at home, and you can do it without spending hours planning a scene. It requires absolutely no special purchases.

That being said, a lot of couples like to work CFNM into an already-amazing scene plan. CFNM on its own can be great (and some people love it as the sole focus!), but it’s usually used as another tool in the “femdomme toolbox” to help enforce power exchange dynamics during a scene where the focus may be on something else – like a foot massage or a spanking.

How Do I Try This at Home?

Well, I’m sure you’ve figured out the basics by now. The acting female of the dynamic is fully clothed – in whatever clothing works for your dynamic. The acting male of your dynamic will be entirely naked. This is pretty much the basic set-up for any CFNM scene you choose to explore.

Now, how you spice it up from here is up to you. Using only clothing, you can change the dynamic even further. Will the woman be wearing a powerful business outfit – further adding to the power exchange? Will the dominatrix be wearing elaborate lingerie – as a further sexual tease in a situation where the bottom is unable to hide his excitement? Will the female dominant be wearing her comfortable, everyday clothes to further nail in the point that she doesn’t think he’s worth dressing up for in a humiliation scene?

You can mess around with the bottom’s “outfit” too. Sure, naked is the basic expectation of CFNM, but even CFNM kink parties allow more than just basic nudity! Are you into chastity? A chastity cage can further enforce the dynamic you’re trying to achieve.

You might even consider a pair of feminine panties – maybe even the dominant’s panties. For the more shy kinksters among us, if full nudity isn’t an option, the same mindset and dynamic can be achieved with the bottom clad in only a pair of his own underwear – while the top is fully clothed.

What if we explore outside of the clothing though? Don’t forget that CFNM is usually used as a fun “part” of a scene – not necessarily the scene itself. This kink can be mixed with any other kink you want to do at the moment – pegging, foot worship, rope bondage, edging, tea service, cigar service, teasing and denial, and anything other kink you had in mind.

Just plan the clothing accordingly, and you could even turn your regular Wednesday movie night into a light mixture of foreplay with CFNM involved!

Brat Tamer: Primal Top

This is from Fetlife. The author is not a Dom, or really anyone to look up to in the lifestyle. They do not claim to be an educator or mentor of the lifestyle. They are a Top that enjoys writing. Being able to write does not make you educated in this lifestyle. Finding something written that backs up what you thought was BDSM doesnt make it legit. What they are describing below is not a sub or a D/s dynamic. IF you do your research, this describes a primal scene. (*EDIT: not part of the actual Primal lifestyle, but more role playing their actions, just watered down. It’s a Primal Top vs a primal bottom.) That is where the bottom will push the buttons of the Top by acting out, calling them names, teasing them etc its suppose to ignite that primal need to attack and dominant. This is NOT a D/s type of dynamic. This is a scene specific role of a Top/bottom. Taking this out of the scene, even if everyone involved is ok with it, does not make it a D/s dynamic. You can do you all you want, but do not try to change the lifestyle to justify your behavior or lack of knowledge of something that has been around prolly longer than you have.

*edit: i want to add that the Top/bottom kink of brat tamer/brat is not actually Primal. Primal is a respected community within this lifestyle. The brat and tamer take on similar actions to the Primal Top vs the primal bottom scene. Sorry if that offended anyone in the Primal community. That was not my intentions.

*edit: This can also be a SAM (smart ass masochist), that is literally what they have been called for years and years. They are bottoms, since they are masochist. They mouth off to get pain usually in the form of a spanking (which NG twisted into “funishments”)