BDSM New Year’s Resolutions

These are just suggestions; obviously, you should pick those that you think would work for you. Or, you could use them as a jumping-off point for some unique resolutions of your own.

Well, here goes!

— Resolve to try a new BDSM scene regularly.

— Resolve to buy a new BDSM toy once a month.

— If you are a Dom/me, resolve to make your sub write a diary – whether regularly or only for a scene.

— If you are a Dom/me, resolve to learn a new BDSM technique every other month.

— If you are a submissive, resolve to learn how to better communicate with your Dominant.

— Resolve to make regular playtime in spite of work and other demands on your life.

— Resolve to read your contract regularly if you have one.

— If you do not have a contract, resolve to make one.

— If you are the Dom/me, resolve to push your kink intensity from time-to-time.

— If you are the Dom/me, resolve to listen to your submissive better.

— Resolve to go to a BDSM play party at a local dungeon.

— If you are the Dominant, resolve to ask your submissive to list his/her favorite BDSM activities and try to incorporate them into your play. (This is one long resolution!)

— If you are the Dom/me, resolve to be a better one.

— If you are the sub, resolve to be a better sub.

— Resolve to listen to your partner more effectively.

— Resolve to discuss what you liked and what you did not like about your BDSM relationship in the last year. No punishment, no protocol – just honest discussion.

— If you are a Dom/me, resolve to examine any bad decisions you made last year objectively

— Resolve not to repeat mistakes. (A good one!)

— Resolve to eliminate one habit your partner hates – such as smoking.

— Resolve to keep at least one of your resolutions!

— Resolve to read at least one book about BDSM. (With Amazon, this is too easy!

— Resolve to discuss D/s deeply with a fellow lifestyler.

— Resolve to raise the spiritual level of your D/s relationship.

Adapted from an ongoing list at kinkweekly*com

BDSM Horror Story – Part 2

In the second part of this mini-series we are looking at that stats for how often accidents and injuries take place within the kink community. We also look at who they happen to and what levels of injuries occur. Lastly we warn against predators and give advice on how to prevent your own BDSM Horror Story!

BDSM Horror Story – Part 3

In the third installment of this mini-series we are continuing to look at that stats for how often accidents and injuries take place within the kink community. We also look at who they happen to and what levels of injuries occur. Lastly we give more advice on how to prevent your own BDSM Horror Story!

BDSM Horror Story – Part 4

In the final installment of this mini-series we are continuing to look at that stats for how often accidents and injuries take place within the kink community. We also look at who they happen to and what levels of injuries occur. Lastly we give more advice on how to prevent your own BDSM Horror Story!

Can you tell me ways to serve my Dom?

By: Sharon Lynn

“How can I submit to bring out my Dom’s dominance/make them more Dominant”

We can’t and you can’t.

Someone commented once It’s only service if the Dom wants it.

And that’s 100% true.

I’ll repeat that

It’s only service if the Dom wants it.

Sir likes certain things as service from how I greet Him in the morning, how I send Him to work, how I keep the house, and our evening routine.

I know what He wants because He has communicated that to me.

“I want you waiting by the side of the bed after you pack my lunch”

“I want you to text me when you leave the house”

“I want you to ask permission to sleep in My bed at night”

These are a couple of the things He has told me He wants me to do.

Other D types may not care about this. So if an sub asked their Dom “Sir/Ma’am , May I sleep in the bed tonight”

They will get an idgaf look.

It’s only service if they want it.

So groups can’t answer ways for them how to serve their Dom.

It’s one of the true parts of every dynamic is different..,