Clothespin Play

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The wooden ones you use to hang your laundry with … yes, those.

There are also plastic ones, metal, big, tiny (like for scrapbooking), decorative, one with teeth/ridges on the inside, ones with smooth clip ends, etc. The options are endless…

So are the ways you can use them during BDSM play.

DON’T YOU JUST CLIP THEM ON?

Yes and no. It is simply a matter of attaching them to the skin, but HOW and the LOCATION is where the fun lies.

There’s really no limit to where you place the pins – there’s not much that’s off-limits (labia, breasts, ears, fingers, the skin around the rib cage, testicles, nose, armpits, anywhere) … as long as…

It’s within the person’s consented pain tolerance

Doesn’t impede breathing

Isn’t aggravating injuries or wounds

Aren’t put in locations that might cause mental discomfort or trauma

HOW TO TEST PIN STRENGTH

The best place is on the skin between the pointer finger and thumb (and not just on the bottom– anything you use on them you should be able to test on yourself).

Whether it’s too tight or loose depends entirely on the person being pinned.

If they’re too tight, I’ve heard of people clipping the pin open to weaken the coil and therefore make it looser. Some even drill holes into the handles to add spin clamps to adjust the pressure (but too much work if you ask me).

You can also buy specialist pins meant for BDSM but they’re a bit pricey.

HOW TO TAKE THEM OFF

Putting them on is as fun as taking them off, but remember one important thing…

Taking them off hurts MORE than putting them on. This comes from the blood rushing back to the area. Some love it, some hate it, some are meh. It depends on the bottom.

As for actual removal, I would recommend just gently removing them (unclamping) if you’re just starting out. After you’re more comfortable with the experience, you can flog them off, whip them off, flick them, or use a ZIPPER!

WHAT’S A ZIPPER?

Pins are attached to a piece of string or rope so when you tug at it they all pop off one after the other. It can make for some very intense pain, pleasure, and fun.

NOTE: Once the pins are on – they MUST, at some point, come off. So if the bottom uses their safety word, you’re in a bit of a pickle. The best way is to just remove them by hand (no zipper pulling) and give them serious aftercare – including discussions on how to avoid a similar painful situation in the future – although, if you just slowly work your way up to these points, it would be rare to run into this situation.

WHAT WILL THEY FEEL

Some feel intense pain (more than the pin going on). Others feel a rush of endorphins and wonderful, warm fuzzy feelings. Some cry. A few say that the areas become hypersensitive afterward – so blowing on the area or caressing it can produce additional physical reactions.

SAFETY TIPS

Don’t leave pins on for more than 15-20 minutes

Don’t get pins with teeth, if you use a zipper it could tear skin off

Sand off wooden clips from anything that might splinter

Do not put clips on the clit (too delicate)

Do leave them on for shorter times if you’re a beginner

Watch for blue discoloration of the skin

Watch for coldness or numbness

Be careful around piercings

*pic is of a zipper

Body Modification

Body modification aims to change a part of the body to create a more exciting or appealing look. Body modifications may be to increase social acceptance, support religious traditions or subvert the cultural norm.

Some of the methods used in body modification are; scarification, permanent piercing, and tattooing. Because scars are the result of the body healing and recovering in some ways it is impossible to control fully. Therefore, the final look of the scar or scars may be different from the one you imagined.

Not usually being part of a sex scene, especially among S/M relationships, scarification can be an intense ritual signifying submission, control, ownership and feeling wanted. Scars are part of traditional rituals as well as people displaying them publicly and are seen as a badge of honour, a test of endurance and an initiation rite. To many a scar is a sign of war, aggression or danger; it symbolises bravery and a hard-to-resist ‘bad boy’ image. Usually cutting scars come from an incision of a pattern on the skin using a scalpel. This can be by plain cuts or it can involve removing part of the skin. Sometimes ashes or tattooing ink are rubbed into the fresh wound to increase the amount of scarring or to colour the scars.

Human branding is intentional scarring caused by placing multiple smaller strikes of heated metal on the skin compared to the one piece of metal bent into a shape that is often used for livestock. A brand done using the single piece on human flesh will usually end up as a blurred messy permanent scar. After scabbing over, the scar tissue fades to pink, revealing a lighter colour to the surrounding skin and is usually raised. The aim is to have the wound heal as visible as desired although some may desire a light one and let it heal. Others want a noticeable outcome and irritate the wound to increase scarring. Being branded can cause a rush of endorphins – a natural painkiller – giving a high that some describe as addictive. Others just like the look or feel of a scar, especially when it’s raised or forms a pattern.

To comply with Health Regulations in most countries:

  • The premises must be kept clean,
  • Any item used for penetrating the skin must be sterile at the time of use,
  • Any item that has penetrated the skin or has come into contact with blood or body fluids must be either disposed of immediately. However, some items may be cleaned and sterilised before being used on another person,
  • Any other used item must be cleaned before being used on another person.
  • Operators must keep themselves and their clothing clean, and have no exposed cuts, wounds or broken skin,
  • Importantly, operators must wear gloves,
  • Proprietors must provide written health information to explain to clients the potential health risks associated with skin penetration procedures.

The skin is the largest organ in the human body. Its function is to protect us from the environment by keeping out bugs and infections. If broken skin and non-sterile equipment or unsafe practices come in contact there is a high risk for transmission of blood borne viruses. HIV and Hepatitis B and C, for instance. The introduction of objects into a wound may increase the risk of infection. Any of the body mod procedure mentioned here need to be done by experienced partners and will also require a degree of aftercare.

Source: downandirty*org/sexual-practices/scarification-branding/

Bastinado: The Art of Foot Torture

I personally love this feeling, can be a great addition to impact play. Please do your research before attempting anything new, and use the correct tool for the job.

Author: unknown

An Abbreviated History of Bastinado

There are a few names for this specific sort of foot torture: “falanga, falaq” or “falaka” which originate from the Persian gulf area, and “bastinado”, from Europe, which literally translated means “to beat with a stick”.

Bastinado was used during the Inquisition. It is still used as a disciplinary measure in China, and is considered the equivalent of a western spanking. Iran is still a modern-day user of bastinado as a torture method, beginning with wooden sticks and varying in size and structure up to even lead pipes. The less you scream, apparently, the more severe the implements choice.

The Turks used bastinado as a form of punishment, and introduced it to the Greeks. It was used in schools in Greece, as well as in the army, and it is rumoured that it is still used by the secret police there, albeit illegally. Generally the feet are tied on a long rod (sometimes two rods were used-feet held between them) while being held by two other persons. In the army the feet were tied on a gun.

Additionally, it was used among the North American Indians when they captured and enslaved other tribes, to keep their captors in line. However, they took it a degree further, and cut the soles of the feet with knives, making

grooves which would prolong the healing process.

Bamboo provides a bastinado scene you’ll never forget. We can thank the Chinese for taking bamboo whipping and elevating it to “fine art” status. During the Manchu dynasty bastinado was practiced by ‘enforcers’ using very long and thin canes. Bastinado was not only about force; in fact these enforcers could strike the feet hundreds of times without ever cutting the skin. They could also draw blood with as little as three strikes. They achieved such skill by practicing on a block of bean curd, which has the consistency of heavy custard. Their skill was at its height when they were able to strike the bean curd repeatedly without ever breaking the surface of it.

The Physiology of Bastinado

Please keep in mind that feet are extremely delicate. They contain many bones and tissues that can be damaged permanently with only the slightest amount of effort. There are a multitude of nerve endings in the feet. These endings can affect nerves that run not only in the feet themselves, but throughout the body, as many nerves in the human anatomy have their endings in the extremities. It is not difficult to cause severe injury, not only in the feet, where walking or standing may be affected short-term, long-term, or even permanently – but in other areas of the body as well via the feet.

Bastinado and Modern BDSM

So you know what not to do, now on to what you can do. Small canes and switches work wonders. I have also experienced bastinado via rubber hoses, thicker canes, belts and bundled florist wire. This should be done lightly and with caution. It’s not particularly difficult to break the more delicate bones in the feet. Some choose to pad or protect the joints of the toes and ankles, and the whole area of the foot excepting the sole may be covered and padded to avoid accidental striking of an unintended location. This isn’t bad advice, particularly for beginners to this sort of activity. In essence, stick to instruments that produce a stinging effect, rather than a thuddy one. The goal is not to bruise the feet or leave marks on them, but to create varied sensations. Alternating with heat, ice, fur mitts, curry-combs used for grooming horses, smooth, cold large stones rubbed on the foot, sandpaper – the possibilities are endless in terms of providing contrasting sensations for the subject of your foot torture.

The strokes to the feet should be light and swift, you don’t want to proceed as if you’re swinging a baseball bat here. In doing BDSM bastinado for the first time, remember to keep it short. Lengthy sessions of such activity can result in your subject being unable to walk in the morning. If you should err, please do so on the side of caution!

From One Who Enjoys Receiving Bastinado:

Personally I like a fairly substantial cane, used with swift repetition, beginning very lightly and increasing in intensity. I also like wire hangers and the previously mentioned florist wire. Florist wire comes in a variety of sizes, and the smaller sizes allow one to provide the sting with relatively little likelihood of long-lasting injury. Though it is amusing to my dominant to see me get up out of bed, having forgotten the on-goings of the night before, and tumble once my feet touch the ground.

In Summary:

A lot of it boils down to simple common sense. Do a little research on foot anatomy, and get to know where the nerves, bones, joints and tissues are. You can’t be too careful or too light on feet that are unaccustomed to this practice. Listen to your subject and watch his/her reactions. And by all means, enjoy!

More Book Recommendations

Here is another list of BDSM/kink related book. These have been around for a while and by people that are in the lifestyle. I will update this list as i find more books that should be on this list.

BDSM Dynamics

🔹Safe, Sane, Consensual, and Fun by John Warren

🔹The Loving Dominant by John Warren

🔹The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton , Janet W. Hardy

🔹The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton , Janet W. Hardy

🔹Partners in Power: Living in Kinky Relationships by Jack Rinella

🔹Becoming a Slave by Jack Rinella

🔹The Master’s Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance by Jack Rinella

🔹The Compleat Slave: Creating and Living an Erotic Dominant/Submissive Lifestyle by Jack Rinella

🔹Dating Kinky by NookieNotes & company

Mistress/Domme/FLR

🔹Because I Said So (vol 1) by NookieNotes

🔹FLR, FemDom & Women In Charge

🔹The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by Lady Green

BDSM community

🔹Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Navigating and Exploring the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington

Bondage

🔹Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys

🔹Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys

🔹Learning the Ropes by Race Bannon

🔹Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé by Lee Harrington

🔹Ropes, Bondage, and Power: Power Exchange Books’ resource series by Lee Harrington

S/m

🔹SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

🔹Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook

🔹Consensual Sadomasochism by William Henkin and Sybil Holiday

🔹Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking by Race Bannon

Poly

🔹The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures y Dossie Easton, Janet Hardy

🔹Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits : Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships by Deborah M. Anapol

Toy bag guides

🔹The Toybag Guide to Age Play (Toybag Guides) by Lee Harrington

🔹The Toybag Guide to Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies by Jay Wiseman

🔹The Toybag Guide to Basic Rope Bondage by Jay Wiseman

KINK

🔹So, What is Kinky, Anyways? By NookieNoes & Company

🔹The Big Book of Ass by NookieNotes & Company

Find them all on Amazon Books https://amzn.to/3QvKahF

A Sadist’s Philosophy of Pain

by Master Marc

Pain is an intense physical sensation. It has evolved as a warning – the body’s way of telling you that you are in danger or something is wrong. That burns, this is broken, that is cut: you’d better do something about it, and fast! As well as more immediate dangers, pain is associated with chronic and acute illness: infection, dysfunction, cancer… Little wonder then that pain has ingrained negative associations. The fear of pain is deep within us all, which is why the threat of pain can make such an effective deterrent.

This horror of pain is a rather low instinct and if I think of human beings I’ve known and of my own life, such as it is, I can’t recall any case of pain which didn’t, on the whole, enrich life.

Malcolm Muggeridge

But as an intense physical sensation separated from actual harm or illness, pain can be a liberating and enriching experience. Safe, sane SM is, I believe, a place to find out about yourself, to extend your experience of yourself. It’s a place to grow, to mature. It is also a place to play, to explore your psychology, dramatise your fantasies and face your demons.

I guess that if we think about it, we all know that we experience pain differently depending on context. Lying back in the dentist’s chair, your mouth wedged open, the slightest twinge becomes magnified in your mind. Playing a rough contact sport like rugby, with the adrenaline pumping and the focus on winning, you get kicked and mauled and thumped, and hardly notice until you see all the bruises in the bath after the game. SM Play can employ this phenomenon very effectively. A fast rough highly sexual encounter can be like contact sport, the rush of blood, an adrenaline surge and a rigid cock ensure the clamps squeezing your nipples or the belt raining blows on your ass are just aspects of a ferociously hot fuck. But tied up, naked, with a Top who knows how to heighten your sense of vulnerability and dramatise the threat of pain, then even the light scraping of you skin with the rough edge of a paddle will have you whimpering.

Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.

anonymous

Of course, the body only needs so much pain to know it’s time for action. After that, pain just gets in the way. The wounded hunter fleeing the sabre-toothed tiger was not helped by debilitating pain. So the body produces adrenaline to speed his escape, and later endorphins are released to subdue the pain. Endorphins are the body’s own euphoric pain-killers, giving you a high which can be subtle or intense depending on the level of pain and the nature of your own physiology. Play SM games with a slow build up of intensity and you stimulate the endorphins to flow, raising your tolerance to pain as the pressure is increased. There can be great subtlety and finesse to SM when a Sadist plays the rate of increase of painful stimuli against his perception of the build up of endorphins in the masochist’s bloodstream. Too slow and the scene remains unsatisfyingly mellow. Too fast and the endorphin release is not adequate for what is being dished out. Get it right and the pain is always just around the limit of what is tolerable, sliding over the edge and back in an exquisite interplay of pain and pleasure.

Punishment is another matter. Here the Top must administer as much severe punishment as possible BEFORE the endorphins kick in, and then ensure the severity of the beating is such that the dulling effect of the body’s opiates does not undo the serious discomfort he is working on the bottom. If there is a pleasure to a punishment scene (and in my personal experience there is) it is shortly after it is over, when the combination of an almighty endorphin rush and the intense sense of personal achievement at having made it through meet that wonderful calm you feel after you’ve bawled your eyes out with not a shred of shame or self-consciousness.

Personality is born out of pain. It is the fire shut up in the flint.

J B Yeats

Crossing your pain barrier is at the heart of SM. It is a heightened experience. It lets you know you’re alive and not trapped in some anodyne prescription for an uncritical consumerized comfort zone. It’s a way of resisting the inevitable group-think that pain should be feared, because the fear of pain can reduce you to less than you really are.

The speed of crossing over and the duration spent on the dark, far side of your pain threshold is what distinguishes SM play from punishment. But all SM should involve some time in the ecliptic void of your own pain, just beyond what you would choose to find tolerable. It’s here, I believe, you come face to face with yourself, your fear of pain and your need for comfort, and meet the wilder child of your true nature. And, through that, there is a maturing and growing self-confidence. I have always found experienced masochists to have an enormous inner stillness and composure when you meet them socially. They have nothing to prove and little to fear. They’ve been there, they’ve endured it and they have survived.

It is a tremendous turn-on to have a masochist’s trust, to push him through his limits and share the intimacy of the moment when he faces his demons.

Source: devianceanddesire*com