If you’ve spent much time on BDSM pages and groups you’ll notice all the black and white images of guys in business suits and women wearing cocktail dresses or lingerie. Often those images will be accompanied by some fancy sounding quote that plays further into this fantasy, romance novel image of BDSM. Worse is when you find these in places that are supposed to be about Education.
Romance novels are not typically good resources for BDSM education, largely because they lack representation. Further, romance novels typically do not communicate a clear or accurate message about BDSM. Some cross the lines of consent. These images do not accurately represent the variety and diversity of those who practice the lifestyle of BDSM. As well, these images often do not accurately represent BDSM relationships in their messages.
Hopefully you take them with a grain of salt and are not caught up in their romance novel sounding hype!
Here is another list of BDSM/kink related book. These have been around for a while and by people that are in the lifestyle. I will update this list as i find more books that should be on this list.
BDSM Dynamics
Safe, Sane, Consensual, and Fun by John Warren
The Loving Dominant by John Warren
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton , Janet W. Hardy
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton , Janet W. Hardy
Partners in Power: Living in Kinky Relationships by Jack Rinella
Becoming a Slave by Jack Rinella
The Master’s Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance by Jack Rinella
The Compleat Slave: Creating and Living an Erotic Dominant/Submissive Lifestyle by Jack Rinella
Dating Kinky by NookieNotes & company
Mistress/Domme/FLR
Because I Said So (vol 1) by NookieNotes
FLR, FemDom & Women In Charge
The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by Lady Green
BDSM community
Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Navigating and Exploring the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington
Bondage
Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys
Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys
Learning the Ropes by Race Bannon
Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé by Lee Harrington
Ropes, Bondage, and Power: Power Exchange Books’ resource series by Lee Harrington
S/m
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook
Consensual Sadomasochism by William Henkin and Sybil Holiday
Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking by Race Bannon
Poly
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures y Dossie Easton, Janet Hardy
Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits : Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships by Deborah M. Anapol
Toy bag guides
The Toybag Guide to Age Play (Toybag Guides) by Lee Harrington
The Toybag Guide to Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies by Jay Wiseman
The Toybag Guide to Basic Rope Bondage by Jay Wiseman
KINK
So, What is Kinky, Anyways? By NookieNoes & Company
What’s Master Saturn reading at the moment? I have some mild adult attention deficit so I tend to keep numerous books on hand and change them like channels on the television. I do eventually flow through the entire book but rarely from cover to cover. These are in no particular order. Pictured are Liber MMM, Uncle Setnakt’s Guide to the Left Hand Path, The Only Way to Learn Astrology (I actually have the complete set of these books), How to Become a Modern Magus, Energy Magick of the Vampyre, Living Magic, The Cult of the Black Cube, Saturn: A New Look at an Old Devil, Holy Daimon, Infernal Geometry and the Left Hand Path, Lords of the Left Hand Path, Black Abbott White Magic, Clavis Goetica, Holy Heretics, The Magical Knowledge Trilogy, Circles of Power: a Guide to Hermetic Magic, Kabbalah Magic and the Great Work of Self-Transformation, The Celtic Golden Dawn, Adventures of a Magus, 365 Days of Hoodoo, The Game of Saturn, The Cube of Space, Sola Busca Tarot: an Alchemical Way, and Falciferian Sorcery for Beginners.
its a well rounded self-initiation into magic with an emphasis on the Planet and Deity of Saturn. I also enjoy listening to Frater Xavier’s Mystery School on YouTube, Foolish Fish for magical news and book reviews, and the Glitch Bottle Podcast.
Safe, Sane, Consensual, and Fun by John Warren
