Coprophilia comes from two Greek words meaning “excrement fondness” and is the official name for the fetish involving sexual arousal and pleasure using poop. This fetish is often one of the fastest to land on a hard limit list although many people also often enjoy other kinks that come in close contact with feces. I believe it commonly gets on that hard limit list so quickly because of two things: lack of education and social stigma.
Let’s briefly touch on social stigma first before I do a some education on different types of Coprophilia play (some that you might be shocked that you actually do!). When people say they are into kink they often throw out a handful of hard limits and it’s usually something like “kids, animals, piss and scat” or some variation of those. They usually don’t say why those are their limits and often times don’t really have any other reason other than “those things are all gross!”
Everything outside of consent is automatically considered off limits within BDSM. Consent is the reason why kids, animals, and dead people are hard limits. They cannot give consent so therefore they are automatically hard limits. If we put anything else on our hard limit list we need to know why it is on it. Saying something is gross is classic 100% kink shaming. For anything that is able to be done within consent, gross isn’t a good reason because it often translates that the people who do those things are gross people.
Perhaps something is a limit because it doesn’t appear to be something you would enjoy. Or it is something you don’t feel is safe for you. Or it is something you are afraid of. Or it is something you tried and did not like. Or it is related to something traumatic that was done to you. Those are all valid reasons for a hard limit. Just be sure whatever the reason is (and there are many others), that it is not related to kink shaming.
So let’s look at different types of kink that involve aspects of coprophilia. Anal, rimming, and ass to mouth are three types of play that involve an area of the body that comes in direct contact with feces. Anal play can involve all kinds of other kinks too. Anything to do with anal play involves playing with the anus, the sphincter muscles, and/or the rectum. No matter what you do, there is no way to guarantee that those areas are totally clean. If you regularly play in that area you will encounter some fecal matter at one time or another. And if you regularly put your mouth near that area or objects that have been in that area, you will likely ingest some form of feces at one time or another. If you enjoy those kinks, it’s no big deal! Keep enjoying them, be as clean as you can and don’t worry about it!
Scat play can be done a variety of ways. Most commonly it is having your partner push excrement out of the body onto some part of your body. The hands, stomach, chest, or genitals are common areas. Often times to do scat safely, plastic wrap is used to cover the receiving person’s body. Just as in wax play, one can feel warmth through the plastic wrap so it is a similar connection to having the feces directly on the skin. Yet no pathogens are passed in the process and cleanup is easier. It is uncommon for scat play to involve ingesting feces. Some do it, yet there are numerous risks involved because feces is a way our body exits pathogens and other bacteria out of our system.
Scat play can be simulated altogether. There are numerous foods and other substances, like clay for example, that hold warmth and have similar texture to feces. Simulating it can be a very primal experience for both partners. While considered edgeplay due to its risks, scat play is often sensual, primal, and about the feelings of connection. It also can be part of humiliation and degradation play.
It’s still fine if it belongs on your hard limit list. Like every other consensual kink, it isn’t for everyone. All kinks have risks and someone thinks the things you are into don’t appear to be things they would enjoy. Thanks for allowing me the opportunity to share some education on this commonly misunderstood kink.
