Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) 101

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The CFNM kink is so simple that many people into it can exactly pinpoint the time where they fell in love with it.

Very popular in female domination circles, Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM, for short) is exactly how it sounds: a kink for a clothed woman while a nearby male is entirely naked. While the kink is often used as part of a power exchange dynamic (where one person is in charge while the other accepts orders), CFNM can also be used outside of power exchange dynamics as well.

People of any gender identities or gender presentations can participate in CFNM.

All that CFNM requires is two people in two various states of dress. However, for the sake of simplicity and the name of the kink, the words “woman” and “man” have been used within this article. A less popular version, CMNF (Clothed Male, Naked Female), is also considered a kinky fetish. However, possibly because of societal expectations or the popularity of the “naked and willing female submissive” trope, “Clothed Male, Naked Female” isn’t often mentioned by specific name.

Why Do People Enjoy It?

Even the most unkinky person can agree: there’s something inherently vulnerable about being naked in front of another human. In CFNM, kinksters just exploit this inherent vulnerability for their own fun. Being naked and vulnerable, while another person is fully clothed and in charge, only reinforces the power exchange dynamic of someone else being in charge.

The plain simplicity of this kink feeds into people’s love for it as well. The kink is so simple that many people into it can exactly pinpoint the time where they fell in love with it. Maybe it was their first girlfriend, who was too nervous to ever undress, so all of their sex was with him being the sole naked person. Maybe it was her first husband, who slept naked, but was so turned on for sex that he never bothered to take the time for her to get naked before the two of them had sex. Most people into CFNM can pinpoint the exact reason why they think they’re into it.

In addition to being vulnerable, a lot of male submissives report that the kink feels extremely sexual. In most cases where a woman is asking them to strip naked, sexual activities or kinky acts are in the near future. Just the stripping down in itself can become a Pavlovian response to future sexual activity – and can become a kink in itself.

Is This Possibly the Easiest Kink Out There?

Well, I’m sure there are other “simple” kinks out there, but Clothed Female, Naked Male definitely ranks as one of the easiest kinks to perform – and that’s part of the appeal! This doesn’t require any specific toys or any specific furniture. You can do it at home, and you can do it without spending hours planning a scene. It requires absolutely no special purchases.

That being said, a lot of couples like to work CFNM into an already-amazing scene plan. CFNM on its own can be great (and some people love it as the sole focus!), but it’s usually used as another tool in the “femdomme toolbox” to help enforce power exchange dynamics during a scene where the focus may be on something else – like a foot massage or a spanking.

How Do I Try This at Home?

Well, I’m sure you’ve figured out the basics by now. The acting female of the dynamic is fully clothed – in whatever clothing works for your dynamic. The acting male of your dynamic will be entirely naked. This is pretty much the basic set-up for any CFNM scene you choose to explore.

Now, how you spice it up from here is up to you. Using only clothing, you can change the dynamic even further. Will the woman be wearing a powerful business outfit – further adding to the power exchange? Will the dominatrix be wearing elaborate lingerie – as a further sexual tease in a situation where the bottom is unable to hide his excitement? Will the female dominant be wearing her comfortable, everyday clothes to further nail in the point that she doesn’t think he’s worth dressing up for in a humiliation scene?

You can mess around with the bottom’s “outfit” too. Sure, naked is the basic expectation of CFNM, but even CFNM kink parties allow more than just basic nudity! Are you into chastity? A chastity cage can further enforce the dynamic you’re trying to achieve.

You might even consider a pair of feminine panties – maybe even the dominant’s panties. For the more shy kinksters among us, if full nudity isn’t an option, the same mindset and dynamic can be achieved with the bottom clad in only a pair of his own underwear – while the top is fully clothed.

What if we explore outside of the clothing though? Don’t forget that CFNM is usually used as a fun “part” of a scene – not necessarily the scene itself. This kink can be mixed with any other kink you want to do at the moment – pegging, foot worship, rope bondage, edging, tea service, cigar service, teasing and denial, and anything other kink you had in mind.

Just plan the clothing accordingly, and you could even turn your regular Wednesday movie night into a light mixture of foreplay with CFNM involved!

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