There has been a few discussions online about the BDSM test being a good place to start this journey, or help you figure out who you are in BDSM. I am 100% against this test, which we have posted about in the group. I want to give one example as to why the test is harmful. This was a post in another group I’m in, so i wont give too many details just the basics to get the point across.
They (identifies as a sub) took that test, masochist was one the results. They werent really into that much pain and didnt feel like it was a fit. Their Dom, who is a sadist, was already wanting to add more pain play into their scenes. So the D tells the s that they should experiment with impact play, while in subspace, to see what they can handle, bc the test says the s is a masochist.
Let me unpack for you why this is extremely dangerous. During subspace, you dont feel the full impact of pain on your body, meaning you can handle more and harder hits. Depending how far into subspace you are, you will not be able to talk, safeword or react to the impact. IF real damage is done to your body bc of a slip up on the Ds part (hitting where they shouldnt) or a previous injury etc you wont be able to react like you should. Subspace is NOT the place to try anything new out. You can’t properly consent or remove consent if needed, and this could really harm you physically but also mentally.
i dont encourage continuing the scene when the sub/bottom hits subspace…unless you REALLY know your partner and what they can handle (and even then a lot of people dont like to continue playing, and will start aftercare at that point)
They aren’t really into pain, but bc of their D is pushing them to try it, with the test result backing the D up, they believe its the right thing to do. NOT standing their ground, and NOT sticking with their limits (like they should)
So bc of the test, and the D taking an opportunity to get their needs met, this sub who doesn’t really like pain, is going to push their limits in pain play while in subspace. There is only a small chance that this will work out in the sub’s favor.
