During vetting and negotiations aftercare should be discussed at great lengths. Do not accept a Top/Dom that refuses to give aftercare, or refuses to give you the type of aftercare you need. You are not needy for needing aftercare. Different types of scenes might require different types of aftercare. Aftercare is personal and can change overtime or with different partners. Tops need aftercare just like bottoms do, which is overlooked most of the time. No aftercare IS aftercare. Don’t feel pressure to need some kind of touching or discussion right after a scene. Some bottoms (especially if they go deep into subspace) do not want to be bothered as they float down, and/or they need to process the scene mentally before verbally discussing it.